Dr Gary Chapman is headed out on another Fun + Faith tour in May 2017, this time he’s visiting Cambridge, London, Calgary and Buffalo. Dr Chapman’s bestselling book The 5 Love Languages is celebrating 25 years this year. It’s sold 11million copies in English and been translated into 50 languages around the world. Wow!
Fun + Faith sat down with Dr Chapman and asked him about what audiences can expect on this tour.
Ever thought of adding a 6th Love Language? The book’s been out for 25 years, culture changes…
Dr Chapman: I’ve had people suggest a 6th love language. One man said to me, ‘There’s a sixth love language.”
“What is it?”
He said, “Chocolate.”
I said, well, if they bought it, it’s a gift. If they made it, it’s an act of service. I see it as a dialect of one of those two languages. Another man said, “The sixth love language is going shopping with my wife.”
I said that sounds like a dialect of quality time. She wants you to be with her doing something she enjoys doing.
I’ve never really come up with what I believe is another love language. I was not dogmatic when I originally wrote the book to say there’s only five, but after 25 years a number six has not emerged, in my thinking at least. But I’m still open. If there is another language, I’d like to know what it is. These five seem to pretty much cover the bases.
Why should audiences come out to hear you speak at these events?
Dr Chapman: I think it’ll be a fun evening and couples need to have fun. You might pick up some new ideas that you can apply to your marriage. I’m also going to address the whole issue which I think is the second essential to marriage which is apology. That’s essential because none of us are perfect, but we have different ideas on how to apologize.
What we discovered is there’s 5 ways that people apologize and if your spouse doesn’t apologize in the way you think is sincere, you’ll question their sincerity. That will be new to most people. The name of that book is When Sorry Isn’t Enough, because some people think you just have to say sorry and I’ll always forgive you and everything will be fine. It’s a little more complicated than that. I’m going to share some ideas on how to live that practically. Forgiveness is also a choice and we’ll discuss that.
Do you have a special message for the audiences you’ll meet on this tour?
Dr Chapman: Try not to come alone. Invite a friend. It’s going to be a fun evening, but hopefully you’ll learn things that will help not only in our own marriages but teach you how you can help other couples. They’ll talk to you about problems in their marriage before they’ll go to a counsellor, and you can be an instrument of change in their marriages.
Thanks Dr Chapman!
London has sold out and Cambridge is close. If you want to hear Dr Chapman live don’t wait to get your tickets! Find more info here: funandfaith.com/gary-chapman